BABY STEPS.

"I am a better friend than I am a girlfriend!"

For the longest time, this has been the statement I have used. You know that time when a friend of yours or even an aquintance finally confesses his feelings for you and you don't think it would be ideal to date. Then they are left in confusion from that statement. 

To be honest, I also didn't quite understand that statement. I just knew that I meant it, but not the underlying reasons. Up until I watched a certain tiktok the other day and I wish I knew myself back then as I do now, so as to be able to explain that statement and not just leave him 'hanging' .

We are always afraid of people getting closer to us due to our insecurities and past traumas eg lack of trust. That is why we feel as though once someone gets too close the relationship will not be as it was. And at that point you can't promise him that it will be worth it in the end, if he chooses to stick around, since it is hard enough for you to work on yourself, and harder on him to be able to stick around through it all. 

Baby steps💆🏾‍♀️. We should learn to heal and work on ourselves before expecting someone else to help us through it. As long as you feel you are not ready then do not do it. It is also still okay to go for it if you are willing to let the other in. It can get quite frustrating if you are too closed up. Aaaaand...do not feel as though your worth has in any way decreased due to rejection. Especially if your 'significant other' is being open on wanting to work on him/herself.

Progress is not linear!🌸🍃